Reply To: Week 1 – Success Principles & Practices

Since there is room for improvement in all of the principles, I muscle tested which would give me the most leverage. Upon getting the response 39. Flow, I muscle tested which practice would be the most helpful & received the answer “Increase your happiness now.” I laughed as I was reminded of the audio where a woman says w/consternation “but I’m happy all the time!” So I told my face that I could indeed always be happier.

Since the Success Principle of 40. Happiness has its own practices, I muscle tested if any of those would be the best for me to implement. The response of “Play, Lightness, Joy…:)” made me think of the book

“The Game of Work”

which I found, literally dusted off & am in the process of re-reading w/the intention of discovering how to best “game-ify” all of the action steps that I know would help me, but I just haven’t done (cuz I don’t wanna!)

Everyday I’ve also been saying “Today, I am focusing with intention on being joyful & playful”

QUESTIONS:

1) Is “SMART” an acronym for something under 6. Goal Types?

2) Heather, I’d love for you to expound more deeply on your understanding & perspective of giving/taking/receiving. (I also welcome anyone else’s input on the subject) I wonder if “Receptivity” deserves its own numbered Success Principle (perhaps something about deserving vs. entitlement), or if you can explain where it can be fully addressed in relation to one of the current 40. The closest mention of it I found in the Successipedia was “rejection” (its opposite) of opportunities.

I’d love to have a healthier relationship w/giving & receiving. It seems to me that specifically focusing on receptivity could be helpful. I’ve had a history (& a not completely dismantled habit pattern) of over-giving (w/o even exchange/reciprocation) to the point of burnout/dejection/resentment. While I’ve become more adept at adjusting course before those unpleasant feelings get as intense as I used to let them get, I haven’t found that situation completely absent from my experience. As I’ve been finding my footing w/’putting my oxygen mask on first’, I have felt a range from concern over being an imposition to others to a self-righteous “Imma get mine” stance, neither of which feel great (while “looking out for #1” can feel empowering if it’s on the way “up the ladder” of emotions as Abraham-Hicks describes).

My current understanding is that like most, if not all, actions, it’s more about the vibration/mindset/intention before & during the act of giving or taking/receiving that determines how beneficial/pleasant the action & its results will be vs. the action being inherently good or bad/helpful or unhelpful.

I’ve found that when I’ve given or been open based on feeling an obligation to do so, or because I’ve perceived the other party to be in a state of lack/neediness/not-ok-ness, it didn’t end up feeling good (cuz it didn’t start out feeling good!)

I’ve also perceived that it feels more like “taking” when participating in either self-judgement (“it’s not appropriate for me to accept this value from whoever) or judgement of others/circumstances (“I’m owed this value after what I’ve had to put up with!”), but I’m not sure I believe that that there really even is such a thing as the negatively-nuanced “taking” outside of perceiving it as such. I think when parties (individuals, groups, corporations, etc.) perform actions from a lower vibration, the results can seem like taking or even stealing, but wouldn’t anyone who might experience negative repercussions from that have to be vibrating at a matching lower frequency? & wouldn’t the ‘negative’ repercussions simply be a potential wake-up call for the ‘victims’ to become conscious of their own creative power?

Just as “receiving” is the better-feeling aspect of “taking”, perhaps it’s worth exploring whatever the good- vs. bad-feeling aspects of “giving” are (I couldn’t think of a word related to giving that has that same differently-nuanced relationship that taking & receiving have, but I know the concept exists from experience!)

I just know that the several mentions of taking/takers, withholding value, or expecting reward vs. giving (or even over-giving) elicited some resistance from me. Based on muscle tests, both where I just used the numbers of the principles so as not to have any bias, and when I was actually looking at the words, I scored very low on the failure side of those giving-related principles, & quite high on the success side, so while it’s possible those concepts don’t feel good because they’re principles I could improve on, I suspect it’s also due to either an imprecision or incompleteness in the presentation/discussion of them.

Outside of providing/creating value being a means to get one in the feeling state of being worthy or deserving of receiving value, I don’t know if I believe one is really necessary for the other. As Abraham-Hicks says, there’s nothing anyone could ever do to earn the value/benefit provided by the sun (which, as far as I know, doesn’t receive any remuneration). I think that if someone is vibrating at a high frequency, they naturally & effortlessly provide value, but I don’t know if by trying to provide value (one might be focusing on the neediness/’needfulness’ of having that value provided), one can necessarily achieve a high vibration which would then result in experiencing more value.

Forgive me for not taking time to write a shorter letter!